Cause I can’t face the evening straight
And you can’t offer me escape
Houses move and houses speak
If you take me there you’ll get relief
relief, relief, relief, relief, relief…
It’s too much
Too bright
Too powerful- Radiohead
Norwegian Wood
Conversations between Toru Watanabe and NagasawaWhen I had slept with three or four girls this way, I asked Nagasawa, “After you’ve done this seventy times, doesn’t it begin to seem kind of pointless?”
“That proves your a decent human being,” he said. “Congratulations. There is absolutely nothing to be gained from sleeping with one strange woman after another. It just tires you out and makes you disgusted with yourself. It’s the same for me.”
“So why the hell do you keep it up?”
“Hard to say. Hey, you know that thing Dostoyevsky wrote on gambling? It’s like that. When you’re surrounded by endless possibilities, one of the hardest things you can do is pass them up. See what I mean?”
“Sort of.”
“Look. The sun goes down. The girls come out and drink. They wander around, looking for something. I can give them that something. Before you know it, I’ve got ‘em down. It’s what they expect. That’s what I mean by possibility. It’s all around you. How can you ignore it? You have a certain ability and the opportunity to use it: can you keep your mouth shut and let it pass?”
“I don’t know, I’ve never been in a situation like that,” I said with a smile. ” I can’t imagine what it’s like.”
“Count your blessings,” Nagasawa said.
—
“I’ve gotta hand it to you,” I said.
“You think I’m a shit, don’t you?”
“I do.”
“Look, the world is an inherently unfair place. I didn’t write the rules. It’s always been that way. I have never once deceived Hatsumi. She knows I’m a shit and that she can leave me anytime she decides she can’t take it. I told her that straight out.”
“Isn’t there anything about life that frightens you?” I asked.
“Hey, I’m not a total idiot,” said Nagasawa. “Of course life frightens me sometimes. I don’t happen to take that as the premise for everything else, though. I’m going to give it a hundred percent and go as far as I can. I’ll take what I want and leave what I don’t want That’s how I intend to live my life, and if things go bad, I’ll stop and reconsider at that point. If you think about it, an unfair society is a society that makes it possible for you to exploit your abilities to the limit.”
“Sounds like a pretty self-centered way to live,” I said.
“Maybe so, but I’m not just looking up at the sky waiting for the fruit to drop. In my own way, I’m working hard. I’m working ten times harder than you are.”
“That’s probably true,” I said.
“I look around me sometimes and I get sick to my stomach. Why the hell don’t these bastards do something? I wonder. They don’t do a damn thing, and then they bitch.”
Amazed by the harshness of his tone, I looked at Nagasawa. “The way I see it, people are working hard. They’re working their fingers to the bone. Or am I looking at things wrong?”
“That’s not hard work. It’s just manual labor,” Nagasawa said with finality. “The ‘hard work’ I’m talking about is more self-directed and purposeful.”
—
“Where Watanabe and I are alike is, we don’t give a damn if nobody understands us,” Nagasawa said. “That’s what makes us different from everybody else. They’re all worried about whether people around them understand them. But not me, not Watanabe. We just don’t give a damn. Self and others are separate.”
“Is this true?” Hatsumi asked me.
“No way,” I said. “I’m not that strong. I don’t feel it’s O.K. if nobody understands me. I’ve got people I want to understand and be understood by. But aside from those few, well, I figure it’s kind of hopeless. I don’t agree with Nagasawa. I do care if people understand me.”
“That’s practically the same thing as what I’m saying,” said Nagasawa, picking up his coffee spoon. “It’s the same! It’s the difference between a late breakfast or an early lunch. Same time, same food, different name.”
Now Hatsumi spoke to Nagasawa. “Don’t you care whether I understand you or not?”
“I guess you don’t get it. Person A understands Person B because the time is right for that to happen, not because Person B wants to be understood by Person A.”
—
“Life doesn’t require ideals. It requires standards of action.”
“Tell me, Nagasawa,” I asked, “what is the ‘standard of action’ in your life?”
“You’ll laugh if I tell you,” he said.
“No, I won’t.”
“All right,” he said. “To be a gentleman.”
I didn’t laugh, but I nearly fell off my chair. “‘To be a gentleman’? A gentleman?”
“You heard me.”
“What does it mean to be a gentleman? How do you define it?”
“A gentleman is someone who does not what he wants to do but what he should do.”
“You’re the weirdest guy I’ve ever met.”
“You’re the straightest guy I’ve ever met.”
Mostar Old Bridge, Bosnia and Herzegovina







